Unconditional Parenting
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UNCONDITIONAL PARENTING ? A Talk by Alfie KohnMost advice for parents begins with the question ?How can we get kids to do what they?re told?? — and then proceeds to offer various techniques for controlling them. In his landmark book Unconditional Parenting ? and in this talk based on that book — Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking ?What are our long-term goals for our children?? It follows that we need to work with them, rather than doing things to them, in order to rea… More >>
The video is a great resource for parents who don’t have time or don’t like to read the parenting books. In 2 hours Alphie Kohn’s theory was covered. His explanations against punishment & rewards and his suggestions for a problem solving approach make sense. The video was a great way to help my spouse and I discuss what is working and what is not. We are going to share this video with our friends too.
Rating: 5 / 5
I didn’t know what to expect thinking this is another “spin” on what’s the new fad of behavior adjusting. I was so wrong, I can say that this is one of the best items I have found to date. I would say you are missing a lot not to hear his point of view. I since have searched and ingested all of his research/works.
Rating: 5 / 5
I have a 2 year old and had been watching Supernanny on TV, thinking I’d be using her tactics of timeouts and such. Then my husband and I read this book together over breakfasts on the weekends and it made so much sense to us. Wouldn’t we prefer that a child choose not to hit another child because they understand it would hurt the other child, rather than that they feared punishment? Wouldn’t we prefer that they earn good grades because it’s fun to learn and apply ourselves than to do it because they want a cash reward?
Long-term goals are lost when we use rewards and punishment, according to this author, and I have to agree. He advises to parent from the perspective of your child, and this concept opened our eyes to a whole different kind of life with our kid. We no longer have battles and our daughter feels loved and nurtured. I wish I could make every parent read it!
Rating: 5 / 5
Actually, all parents should read the Unconditional Parenting book, but if you (or your spouse) lack the time to do so, this is the next best thing. It will challenge the way you think about parenting your children and you will be a better parent because of it. If you are tired of sticker charts or one-size-fits-all consequences like “one minute of time out for every year of age” and want to think about how the way you are parenting today will shape both your relationship with your child and the adult your child will become, then this video is for you. This video really is just an introduction to his ideas, but it’s a good one.
Rating: 5 / 5
Every parent should hear what Alfie Kohn has to say about unconditional parenting. This is an excellent lecture to show family members and friends who have questions about why you’ve chosen to parent your children with compassion, patience, understanding and unconditional love. Alfie Kohn challenges the mainstream parenting advice with thoughtful insight, humour and a mass of research. If all parents unconditionally loved their children as Kohn suggests, we would soon have a new generation of confident, loving, intelligent and happy children.
Rating: 5 / 5