Unconditional Parenting
- ISBN13: 9780743487481
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Product Description
Most parenting guides begin with the question “How can we get kids to do what they’re told?” and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking, “What do kids need — and how can we meet those needs?” What follows from that question are ideas for working with children rather than doing things to them.One basic need all children have, Kohn argues, is t… More >>
Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason
Is this why I have to put up with so many brats when I go out in public? Is this the same clueless fool who said you can’t spoil a child? At least he admits one of his goals is to tear down the individualism this country is founded upon by replacing systems of rewards and punishment, and the goal of responsibility with navel gazing anarchy. Newsflash, author, we already have a society based on no parenting parenting, I shudder to envision a world of his making that is even more so.
Rating: 1 / 5
Children stand on their legs and adults will stand on their brains.
A 5-year old grandchild, given the opportunity, knows better (not better, as in a comparison, but better in knowing the world as it is at any given moment) than grown-ups who act and think on mere suggestion.
The world draws upon your curiosity. Any grandparent who pays attention knows (not as in logical argument) this. That’s what grandchildren teach them. That’s all.
Rating: 5 / 5
Kohn gives text book advice for text book situations. “Kohn, how about joining the real world?”Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason
Rating: 1 / 5
First of all, this book gives ideas that have absolutely no practical application. For example, he suggests that ideally you should never praise your kids, because they should learn to feel proud of themselves, not rely on your pride. Sure, they should feel proud of themselves, but aren’t they more likely to just feel bad about themselves if they grow up with parents who refuse to hand out praise?
More importantly to me, as a Christian parent, is the fact that he sites religion as one of the reasons parents these days are too conditional in his opinion. He actually states that the God of Christian and Jewish religion is the ultimate example of conditional love, and goes on to say that these religions teach God loves you only if you love him. I can’t respect anything he has to say after reading that kind of nonsense.
Rating: 1 / 5
This book is great in theory but good luck putting into practice!!
Some of his ONLY real advice was to let a child (while in public) ride out a temper tantrum. Well, what about kids you flail, bite, hit, throw, and do anything possible while having a tantrum….what then?
There is nothing in this book I don’t already do.
Saying “Good job” is bad? Come on, lets all live in the real world!
Somebody give me some REAL advice for the extreme situations!!
Rating: 1 / 5