“When I have my first child, I have little fear. Probably, the same fear experienced by other mothers. It’s the fear that can not educate children properly.” Wulan said her story (30).

Have you ever felt the same fear as Wulan? The wise man said, the greatest job in the world is raising children.  Thats why parenting topic always interesting. A child is not enough just filled with clothing and food, but also need to provide with another thing, such as providing a good education formal and informal.

If the parents educate their children well, it will produce well-behaved child. And vice versa. Well, that’s why some rules needed in educating children, so the children future going to be more better and make their parents proud.

So whats the rule??
1.       Positive environment can form child has a self-confident. Each parent actions today, will influence their child’s mental development tomorrow. It is recommended parents always keep a good attitude, great caution to the voice tone, body language and facial expressions

2.       Give praise to the child. Some praise can be an award to children, so will make your child feel proud to be able to do something independently.

3.       Do not ever compare your child with another child, because this will make them feel inferior and useless.

4.       Avoid bad statement to children, such as “You Stupid!” or “Do not be such a baby!” Believe me, bad comments will always be attached to the child. Try to make sure your child understand that every person can make mistakes, including her. But it will not detract at all your love to him even if you do not like his behavior.

5.       Children will usually learn to behave from their parents. That is why it is recommended that any parent think first what to do. For example, if your anger, you will strike, so do not be surprised if your child is angry at his friend he would have the same tendency with you, which is hit. Now teach your children to respect, solidarity, honesty, good attitude, like tolerance and not selfish.

6.       In line with the age and mental development of children, try to change the way of educating. Be flexible parents!

7.       Realize thats no parent is perfect in this world, including you. As a human you also have strengths and weaknesses. So get to know your abilities and your partner.

There you go, hopefully this parenting tips can help you rais your children well.

Conversely, the positive impact of new television visible for children aged three to five years. Because, at this age, their reading ability can be better by watching such a pattern.

The impact of blue light

Television emits blue light which is also produced by the sun. But this is different blue rays with ultra violet rays. Blue ray does not make the eyes automatically blink. But worse, the blue light directly into the retina without the filter. Wavelength of light produced is 400-500nm that could potentially trigger the formation of free radicals and photochemical injure the child’s retina.

Ten years later when children were grown, the damage caused by blue light looks very clear. Retina of the eye is no longer such a clear sense of childhood that became the functioning ability decreased.

What should parents do?

1. Give a time limit for watching television. When he will be and when he had to stop watching television. For preschoolers, these conditions may be difficult because at that age children have started to argue. Try to make a deal with the limitations. Such as the type of impressions that he wanted and the length of time watching. For toddlers, set time limits, which is quite an hour a day. As for pre-school age may watch television less than two hours a day.
2. Take advantage of these little time as a learning tool as well as children. Sit with your child and discuss the contents of impressions choice.
3. Prepare alternative activities for children no longer whining and went back to watching television.
4. Instill family values, again in order to understand what children can and can not do so the child more confidence to face his friends.

Try to do a different approach with your kids. Some of the following may help you relax, and help your child feel comfortable and more able to explore and learn themselves. Thus created between mother and child a better and happier.

1. When you are in a state of anger, reach and embrace the child. Than you scold or hit him, would be better if you showing it with love. This way both to teach and introduce your child will love.

2. Treat them with kindness and try to appreciate it. It seems simple perhaps, but do you know how little respect you gave him, just because you think they are still children.

3. Do not impose too great expectations for him.Sometimes parents have too high expectations for their children, whether in terms of academic, sports or expect a child who mastered a particular field, although it was not what he/she wanted. Sometimes parents also want their children to grow into children who have certain properties and tried to steer into a gentle child, good, always cheerful, industrious and diligent. Do not push this to his will..

4. Let him play and explore themselves. Stop being overprotective person. Let them enjoy their children, hood with a play bike, running or exploring nature. Of course you have to keep teaching your children about the dangers and safety, but without need to restrict their freedom in the age of children.

5. Instead of saying “no”, you better say “yes” or another version of it. Generally, parents often refuse to say no when your child wants. Give him a little freedom. But it does not mean you should always say yes every time, because sometimes the refusal is also required. But at least look for the words in the pronunciation smoother. For example, you could say, “Yes, we can do that … but maybe later, if the mother had finished their homework.”

6. Do not to be excessive force him to learn and do not hinder his desire. Parents are always trying to teach different kinds of knowledge to their children. But you need to know, children will learn naturally even without a parent. So stop this way and do not force them to learn about what you think you have learned. All you need to do is to encourage and stimulate them to explore themselves. Make something they liked. When they started to like it, naturally they will learn to find out.

7. Try to see things from the perspective of this child. If you’re angry about something, it’s because you only see it on your perspective. While children have a different perspective to things, and if you can understand his view, then you can reduce the baby’s emotions. In fact, you will make things better. 8. If the child started acting up, try to find out why he did it and immediately find a solution. Often they are acting just to get freedom, seeking attention, or because they want to be loved.

9. Do not ever change your child characte. You do not need to shape it into a perfect figure of a child, because he had perfect with everything in him.

10. And now, try to relax. Enjoy every moment with your child, because they will not forever be on your side. You will not believe how fast the kids come and go. Celebrate this moment with them and make every moment becomes more meaningful. You certainly will never regret that happy moment!

Changing Diapers in Public Places

Replace them at home sometimes it is very inconvenient, especially if you have to change a diaper when you’re in public places like malls and shopping centers.

*  Find a strategic location for diapering your baby, like a table or floor which separate toilet and interference-free
*  Put the baby equipment such as cloth, diapers and lotions at some place within easy for you to reach.
*  Use both hands to hold your baby head and back while you put the baby
*  Change your baby’s diaper as usual you do at home. Make sure your do it with calm, not panic and rush. It would be better you do while humming or talking to soothe your baby.

Wearing Apparel

*       Do not do it in a hurry, because it actually can make your child struggling and refuse what you try to do
*       Do not force him to “go” into the clothing, especially if the clothes are too tight or fitted
*       Do it with a fast rhythm, but soft and not in a hurry, so that your baby can enjoy it.

Trimming Nails
*       You should do this when your baby is a sleep
*       Use special scissors for baby or small scissors
*       If your child awake suddenly, try to calm and distract him by telling a story or singing softly.

Giving Medicine

*       Place your baby lying when you give a medicine
*       Use the dropper to give medicine to your baby drops
*       Give your child’s favorite beverage after giving medication

Clearing Nose

*   Do it slowly and with gentle movements

Age appropriate

At toddler age, children are still overcome with annoyance of beloved animals. At this age children also did not understand exactly how to treat the animals. So they often touch or hold it too hard. sometimes by plucking and interesting animal fur. Well, this is sometimes makes the animals became angry and then attack or injure children.

That is why, the most recommended age for having a pet is a pre-school age, about  7  to 10 years. At this age children are able to express themselves to pets. Like love, hugging, happy, sad Aeven if the pet dies. Even when the child has reached the age of 10 years, they could given the responsibility of taking care of animals. Begin feeding, cleaning cages and bathing.

Choosing animals

Although the role of parents is required when election pets for children. However, the child should remain involved to determine what animal he wanted. Should select an animal that is safe, no harm, not poisonous and not potentially attacked the owner. But most important note is to find out beforehand whether your baby has allergies, so there are some animals that are not recommended.

* Select the animal does not like to bite. For example, rabbits and cats. Choose the type of cat benign like Persian. But, if the child is allergic,get away from this race because of long-haired. If you choose a dog, choose a good character. There are certain races (such as golden retrievers) will hit the stand silent. But avoid the little dog that is not easy to slam the child.
* For future pet does not transmit the disease, should keep the good health of animals. That is why, pets also need to get the vaccine, given de-worming, flea-free, hair care, teeth, ears, and nails regularly.

Important note

Although the baby has a pet which has become his friend now, socializing with outsiders must remain to be done. Do not let your pet into the child’s imaginary friend, so he did not have another playmate.

If your child is bitten by a pet you must have to do is to immediately wash the bite wound and then drain and provide antiseptic. If the bite is to quickly bring the wide wound to the doctor.zz

Well, that birthday party for the little running smoothly and enjoyable as planned. There are several things that must be prepared far in advance. What?

A month before D-day
1. Determine how much budget will you prepare. For the budget amount will help you determine the type and form of the party that you want for the kid.
2. Create a theme according to your budget. e.g  garden party, celebrate at a restaurant, a costume party to celebrate at school or with friends and teachers.
3. Make a list of guests and friends that your child will be invited. Do not forget, because this is a children’s party then the parents or caregivers will also be present to accompany.
4. To smooth the party, ask another family to oversee the party.

3 to 2 weeks before the party

1. Plan and then immediately ordered what dishes will be served. Select small cakes and drink whatever you want to serve. Choose foods that are appropriate and familiar with the tastes of children. Do not just provide the main menu heavy. Serve fruits, snacks, chocolate, ice cream, pudding, and candy.

2. Start buying goods durable nature. Like, things that will be used as a Goodie bags, buy or create your own invitation cards, buy party decorations, ordered a clown or magician birthday party and preparing baby clothes.
3. Booked the party if the party was not held in the house.
4. Order a cake if you decide to not make ownselves. More fun for your child if you participate in the elections involve cake.
5. Create a game design and arrangement of events that are not boring. Customize the type of game with the child’s age and his friends. Prepare more than one game. So, if plan A does not go work, you still have a spare.
6. Began to send invitations to friends.

3 days before D-day

1. Prepare all documentation tools that will be used. As hndycam or camera. Do not forget to check the batteries.
2. Contact your child’s friends mother and the teacher asked for help to remind about the birthday party would you throw to your friends baby.
3. Number catering where you order food and shop you order a cake to ensure your order can be delivered on time.
4. Number is also the birthday clowns and magicians to make sure his arrival.
5. Begin decorating the event.
6. Make a detailed arrangement of the event

It’s time to party!

1. Several hours before the event starts, check your child preparation.
2. Check the decor, food preparation and seats for the invitation.
3. Run with the perfect party plan.
4. Do not forget, give your baby a surprise by giving the gift he had been dreaming!

Travel Options

It is important to take baby ewuipment when traveling, always associated with the type of vehicle used. But good travel on land, sea or air, the main thing is to ensure child safety.

1. Make sure you have adequate car seat if you will be traveling with a private car.

2. If the overland travel during the day, make sure the vehicle has a screen that can protect children from exposure to brilliant sunlight.

3. Complete the children needs; diapers and spare clothes, food and eating utensils.

4. Some toys

5. Blanket

6. Favorite songs to soothe the child.

Hopefully this simple parenting tips usefull for you.

All parents would want to be like Destia, as much as possible their children in school with the best quality of education. Because the basis of the development of children is formed when they sat on the bench play group or kindergarten. One of education in this educational levels can be broke later. Can your child to to the new formal environment?

I hope the following guidelines can help you:

First
You can be pick play group or kindergarten as much as possible, even feel free to do trial class. Then compare each play group or the kindergarten. How does the facility, instructor experience, and patterns of teaching.

Facilities here means a facility that can stimulate play fine motor, gross motor skills and socialization for the child. As for the experience of teachers, make sure each teacher handle a maximum of four children. And one class only contain no more than 20 children. Why should select an experienced instructor?

For this teacher who later played a role in shaping the child’s personal. Of all children under the age of three years, the teacher must be patient not only teach but also to handle emotions and characteristics of different children.

Second
Long learning should also be noted. Therefore, the ability to effectively learn the child play group or kindergarten up to a maximum of only 30 minutes. Choose a play group or kindergarten that provides a break to play in the child’s learning more than half an hour.

There are parents, who have various considerations who wants their children going to kindergarten without having to Play group. Well, in order the child ready go to school, the following basic must have basic skills are:

1. Make sure your child can call his own name, home address and their home phone number.
2. Although not fluent, but he was able to put on and take off his own clothes. Especially the button-front shirt.
3. Can pee and wash his own hands.
4. Nice to play with peers.
5. Already have enough vocabulary.
6. Not insecure and have positive feelings about yourself.
7. The child was delighted when asked to talk about his school plans.

As a parent, you must have a preparation before delivering your first child to school.

1. When you find the right school, do it with your child so he he can feel the school atmosphere.
2. Introduce children to  reading suitable books for her age.
3. Every day add his knowledge such as introduce names of objects.
4. Began to limit the time to watch television.
5. Limit time watching television. Began to persuade children learn how to wake up in the morning or the hours that you have both agreed to. The same with bed time.
6. Encourage your child to play the game according to age, and encourage him to learn how to obey the rules of the game. “No crying, no anger and no screams”.

For the sake of your child the best education, it is recommended that parents not to hesitate to spend some time hunting information about the play group or kindergarten. Ribet better in depam than sorry later on right?

And what about those not? Because not all children want to tell her experience when at school. In fact, although he was still a child, did not rule out also keeps the little problem of ‘complicated’ and ‘heavy’ in school. Whether with his classmates, senior or maybe even a teacher.

Well, if you want to know, Do your child is happy or not in school or not. Consider the following signs:

Afraid to go to school for the first time is normal. However, if your child complains abdominal pain every school and heard the word when going off from school. Even the complaints occurred repeatedly and continues, then this is a serious problem. That is, the place to learn it was there that made him fear, anxiety and discomfort.

Showed little reaction to anxiety, such as along the way to school, your child shows an unusual manner, such as nail biting, thumb sucking, playing and pulling hair, crying for no reason and even incontinence. Parents need to understand if this reaction occurs because there is something that makes your child feel threatened.

Your child did not want to discuss anything related at school. The simplest example is that he did not want to do homework, or anything related to the school.

What should yo do?

Immediately communicate with your child. Try to talk about what happened at the school on a regular basis. Even if you need to do every day. Select the appropriate time to discuss it. As before dinner, during dinner, while relaxing or other appropriate time according for you. Be sure to start with questions mild and pleasant.

Make Your child to continue to talk and do not stop until their answer a ‘flat’ and not ‘in’. Try to ask questions that can not be answered with one or two words. Try to give him telling question at length. Ask him, the events that have occurred in schools, both pleasant and make him sad.

Try to establish rapport with the class teacher. When children have problems with the environment at the school, teachers were usually see for the first time.

Choosing baby equipment such as clothes, shoes and hats are not as easy as selecting equipment for that children as usual. Baby’s skin is still soft, very risky to some specific materials. Therefore you must be more selective in choosing baby equipment required.

Here are some tips in choosing baby equipment:

Baby clothes

Choosing baby clothes is sometimes not easy. As a parent, you certainly want to see the baby look pretty with a particular model, but not necessarily be selected clothes comfortable to wear the baby. For that, in choosing your baby’s clothes must be more selective and seen from different points of view, from the model, color and comfort.

Tips on choosing baby clothes:

* Choose the size that fits with the baby’s body. Baby whowas body was bigger it would be difficult to move when using the narrow dress.
* Adjust the the clothes to suit the climate and weather. For place a tropical climate, choose baby clothes from materials that easily absorb sweat and subtle, such as cotton or jersey. While in cold climates, choose clothes made from slightly thicker but still soft and comfortable.
* Avoid synthetic clothing such as polyster not absorb perspiration that can cause skin rash.
* Priority function rather than a model. Choose a simple dress and in accordance with the body of a young baby so as not to impede their activities.
* Avoid choosing a dress or pants length when the baby is able to crawl, so that the baby more freely in their activities.
* Note the position of clothing labels. A good label position is farther away from baby’s skin, for example, in addition to the outside of clothing. This is to avoid the baby’s skin from blisters and irritation of the skin.
* Do not select a shirt with lots of accessories, such as laces, ropes, ribbons, beads or sequins. Besides making uncomfortable, often chewed the baby’s clothes. Clothes with wrinkles (smock) in the chest, should also be avoided because it is too tight and can smothering a baby.
* Avoid the collar is narrow and thick too, because it will make the baby feel uncomfortable and difficult to move.
* Avoid using elastic rubber, because it has strong adhesive power. We recommend using a softer rubber yarn.
* Do not choose baby clothes that the button from metal (iron). Because iron can rust, and when the baby started to feel and incorporate any hand carried the rust.
* Wash your first newly purchased clothes to be more gentle when used and infants are protected from dirt.

Baby Shoes

Actually babies need shoes before he could touch the floor. Shoes are more shaped like a sock that works to warm the feet as well as accessories to enhance your baby’s feet.

By the time children begin to learn to walk, more functional shoes to protect feet from sharp objects, dirt, and so on. But when the little walk in the house clean and safe, let your baby walk barefoot so he can learn to recognize objects that touched his feet.

Tips on choosing shoes:
* Choose shoes with soft soles and textured. This is to avoid that child does not easily slip.
* Buffer padded feet and curved. Curved section at the soles of his feet so well.
* Flexibility shoe materials also need to considered to be more flexible legs when walking. try to flexibility, you can bend the shoe.
* Choose shoes made from strong material, lightweight and not too thin. This is useful to protect his feet and make tracks are not obstructed.
* We recommend the top of the shoe was made of plastic material for preventing evaporation. Choose the fabric to allow air to enter.
* Avoid the pointed end or narrowed, because it can make his fingers move blocked.
* Try to keep the size of a shoe is not narrow and not loose too. Because the leg bones have not formed a perfect child until they was 6 years old. We recommend that the distance between the shoe with the longest toe about 2 cm for comfortable shoes to use the kids.
* The growth of your child’s feet are very fast. Ideally, 3 times a year you have to buy new shoes for little
* Use a hose if necessary

Baby Hats

Baby hat is not less important. For newborn hat is useful for preventing heat expenditure, because spending more heat from the head. Hats are also very useful if the cold weather or when babies want out.

Tips:
We recommend that babies put on a hat at the age of the first 2 weeks after birth. Hat is now present with a variety of colors shapes can also add cute little baby your appearance.